fix(tui): open wake/remote cards lazily when the wire stamp is missed

[jkyberneees]

Problem

Field report (v0.20.0 ↔ odek v1.40.0): after a background job completed and the wake turn started, the transcript showed nothing of the LLM loop — the busy line stuck at thinking / ● running delegate_tasks, and sub-agent logs surfaced only as transient notes.

Root cause: the wake card opens from exactly one frame (the session frame stamped system_initiated). If that frame is missed, the turn streams with no open card — thinking/token/tool_call drop silently while m.status still mutates unconditionally, and subagent_state/subagent_log degrade to transient notes.

Fix

In bodek every operator turn starts with a local send, so idle + incoming stream proves a server-initiated turn. ensureWireTurn now lazily opens the card from the first streamed event:

• wake-marked (⬡ odek · wake) when bg_wake armed it — the wake keeps its identity even without the stamp
• plain remote card otherwise (e.g. a turn started from another client on this session) — visible instead of dropped
• heals the normally-unreachable busy-without-card state instead of deadlocking
• stamped-frame behavior and live-operator suppression unchanged (TestWakeCardSuppressedWhileBusy stays)
• wakeArmed retires at turn end and on local sends — no stale mislabeling

Tests (RED-first)

New wake_resilience_test.go: idle+stream opens a card (with/without bg_wake), full lifecycle finalizes to ready, corrupt busy heals, no card stacking on live operator turns, wake-arm retire/re-arm. Confirmed RED before the fix (4/5 failing), GREEN after.

Verification

• go test -race -count=1 ./... — 7/7 packages ok
• go vet ./... clean, go fmt clean (golangci-lint via CI)
• AGENTS.md + README wake sections updated in the same commit

Follow-up (odek-side, out of scope here)

TEMP_ODEK_TURN_STARTED_TASKS.md (local, untracked) drafts a turn_started wire frame spec so clients can reconcile cards explicitly instead of heuristically.